The 2 recent explosions within the Program Committee and then within the American Psychoanalytic Association are examined, from an insider’s perspective, as analysts’ difficulties with listening to each other. Analysts’ anxiety with erotic excitement, especially with racial erotics, even when used for self-affirmation, is discussed. So too is the need for ‘Othering’ and the need for those who have been ‘Othered’ to validate themselves, using anger for self-affirmation. Not primarily psychoanalytic ethics, ethics for psychoanalysts, but human ethics, valuing of the other, of our relationship with the other, becomes the pathway for psychoanalysts to listen to the other. Emmanuel Levinas and his psychoanalytic elaborator, Viviane Chetrit-Vatine, are seen as triumphing over their own personal Holocaust trauma via their model of ethical behavior with others. Other prominent contemporary thinkers will be cited, including Frantz Fanon. The author emphasizes our failures, including his own.